Over Enthusiastic Parent Planner

How do you tell an over enthusiastic parent planner that they are too opinionated? There is never a great way to do this. Someone’s feelings are going to get hurt but this is where all that relationship building is going to pay off. Go back to the original general style, theme or outline and point out how it deviates from the plan. Stress and focus on an idea that they suggested that you do like. Be honest and sincere about how you feel. Chances are its no big deal. If it is a big deal pick your battles wisely. Get to the root of the issue and ask your self if you could compromise. If the issue is that your parent would like the option of fish at your steak dinner chances are you could give in-after all it is a healthy option. If it is the whole wedding color scheme you really need to remind your parent of the general outline and that purple and pink are your favorite colors and you are not going to budge. Always remember in the end they want you to be happy and if pink with purple Pokka-dots is your hearts desire eventually they will find a way to get over this small disappointment.
You can use this opportunity to get to know your in-laws and it can be positive. Get used to it; you will have some sort of relationship with your in-laws for years to come. Building an optimistic relationship will pave the way for multiple life changing situations-like babies. Usually in-laws want to offer something; traditionally they took care of the rehearsal dinner. Ask their opinion, let them in on the master plan, c.c. them on major planning emails and on holidays bring them wedding updates and photos.