I have heard of many brides who walked into their wedding and they felt like the wedding just didn't fit who they were. It begs the questions who's wedding is it anyway?
The truth is that it is yours, it is your day. Does that mean that if you want a diamond studded affair that may happen? Well no but it does mean that is should fit who you are. If you are small ceremony at the beach with windblown hair than that is what you should have.
Vendors can sometimes make a bride feel that their wedding is not their own. Wedding coordinators, floral designers and yes photographers can make a bride feel this way. If you meet with a vendor and you get the feeling that that vendor is thinking of your wedding as their own canvas maybe you should set some ground rules or find someone who recognizes that this is your time.
I pose this issue because I think that it is easy for brides once they have hired vendors to just go along without saying anything then feel upset later on.
I feel that your wedding is just that. I feel that I can make suggestions but once I get the vibe that you are not feeling my vision I change it until it is something that you like. We get many brides who say just do whatever you want but I always tell them what I am doing so that they know I have their best wishes at heart. For me I take the opportunity to photograph weddings as a change to capture wonderful people going through many emotions through my artistic eye.
Does this mean that you should not take the advice from other vendors...no. Chances are your vendors have a lot of experience and they know what to expect and how to handle a variety of situations that will come up. It's important to listen and weigh their advice as they have been through these situations before and can not only save you time and money but possible heartache from expectations that may not have been meet.
